Friendship...

So at lunch time today I got a call from one of my cheerleaders. Being in highschool is hard (I don't thing that I would do it again if given the choice). Friendships and relationships are especially hard.

So after much crying and explaining I finally got to the root of the problem. A best friend asking her to choose between her and her boyfriend. No middle ground, no compromise - "if you choose your friendship with him over mine we are done." Not wanting to loose her friend, but also not wanting to loose her relationship with this boy she was torn apart and didn't know what to do. All this was stemming from two proms being on the same night. The friend wanted her to go to the prom in town. The guy friend had asked her to go to his prom in another town. No pressure was put on her to attend the out of town prom, but she really wanted to go. Prom is so important when you are in highschool (as an adult you sometimes wonder what all the hype was about when you look back). So now a very confused girl was just going to skip going all together to keep her friend happy.

My own recollections of situations just like this one were going through my head. So my advice - STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. A true friend will understand that you are allowed to have other relationships in your life and that this doesn't make the relationship between the two of you any less meaningful.

So after a lengthy conversation she is now attending the out of town prom she really wants to go to and has decided that if her friend ends their relationship over her wanting to spend time with someone else she is close to then it wasn't worth trying to keep the friendship anyway. Remember, no one has the power to make decisions for you. No one has the ability to make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them. True friends will not make you choose between your close relationships.

Well, this entire conversation was still on my mind as I logged on to the computer and I started searching for something that I could give her to help her deal with the situation. I found this article and thought that I would share it on here as well.

Simple ~vs~ Real Friendship

A simple friend identifies himself when he calls.
A real friend doesn't have to.
A simple friend opens a conversation with a full news bulletin on his life.
A real friend says, "What's new with you?"
A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent.
A real friend says, "You've been whining about the same thing for 14 years. Get off your duff and do something about it."
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!