So at lunch time today I got a call from one of my cheerleaders. Being in highschool is hard (I don't thing that I would do it again if given the choice). Friendships and relationships are especially hard.
So after much crying and explaining I finally got to the root of the problem. A best friend asking her to choose between her and her boyfriend. No middle ground, no compromise - "if you choose your friendship with him over mine we are done." Not wanting to loose her friend, but also not wanting to loose her relationship with this boy she was torn apart and didn't know what to do. All this was stemming from two proms being on the same night. The friend wanted her to go to the prom in town. The guy friend had asked her to go to his prom in another town. No pressure was put on her to attend the out of town prom, but she really wanted to go. Prom is so important when you are in highschool (as an adult you sometimes wonder what all the hype was about when you look back). So now a very confused girl was just going to skip going all together to keep her friend happy.
My own recollections of situations just like this one were going through my head. So my advice - STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. A true friend will understand that you are allowed to have other relationships in your life and that this doesn't make the relationship between the two of you any less meaningful.
So after a lengthy conversation she is now attending the out of town prom she really wants to go to and has decided that if her friend ends their relationship over her wanting to spend time with someone else she is close to then it wasn't worth trying to keep the friendship anyway. Remember, no one has the power to make decisions for you. No one has the ability to make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them. True friends will not make you choose between your close relationships.
Well, this entire conversation was still on my mind as I logged on to the computer and I started searching for something that I could give her to help her deal with the situation. I found this article and thought that I would share it on here as well.
Simple ~vs~ Real Friendship
A simple friend identifies himself when he calls.
A real friend doesn't have to.
A simple friend opens a conversation with a full news bulletin on his life.
A real friend says, "What's new with you?"
A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent.
A real friend says, "You've been whining about the same thing for 14 years. Get off your duff and do something about it."
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
Friday, January 30, 2009
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Finding Your Happy Heart
Ever have one of those days that you are just cranky? You can't explain why you are or what happened to make you that way, you just are.
It was one of those days here... too much going on and not enough time to do it all.
But then, out of the mouths of babes and your day just brightens up!!
Tyler came and asked to snuggle like a baby with me on the couch. As he sat there and combed my hair with his fingers (I love when my kids do that!!) he looked up and me and said, "Mama am I helping you find your happy heart?"
Now I ask you, how can you stay cranky after a comment like that??
Hope you all find your happy hearts today!!
It was one of those days here... too much going on and not enough time to do it all.
But then, out of the mouths of babes and your day just brightens up!!
Tyler came and asked to snuggle like a baby with me on the couch. As he sat there and combed my hair with his fingers (I love when my kids do that!!) he looked up and me and said, "Mama am I helping you find your happy heart?"
Now I ask you, how can you stay cranky after a comment like that??
Hope you all find your happy hearts today!!
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
I'M GOING ON STRIKE!!
Ok, I'm not going on strike - but I have been on strike the last 2 days. THE MOM IS ON STRIKE!
Well, my little plan to get the guys (including the grownup one) to help out with the household chores backfired on me. Instead of them getting sick of the clutter, dishes and no clean clothes and pitching in they just ignored the entire mess.
Note to moms everywhere - if you go on strike be prepared to spend an ENTIRE DAY cleaning up when the strike fails to work. Instead of teaching my guys a lesson it only caused more work for me when I couldn't stand it any longer and cleaned everything up.
So much for the sneaky mom lesson I was trying to instill on my household...
Well, my little plan to get the guys (including the grownup one) to help out with the household chores backfired on me. Instead of them getting sick of the clutter, dishes and no clean clothes and pitching in they just ignored the entire mess.
Note to moms everywhere - if you go on strike be prepared to spend an ENTIRE DAY cleaning up when the strike fails to work. Instead of teaching my guys a lesson it only caused more work for me when I couldn't stand it any longer and cleaned everything up.
So much for the sneaky mom lesson I was trying to instill on my household...
Monday, January 19, 2009
Not Me Monday!!
Welcome to Not Me! Monday! This blog carnival was created by MckMama. You can head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.
What a week we've had!!
This past week we most certainly weren't a very crabby household since we were stuck inside because of the extremely cold temperatures outside.
Due to the cold weather (35 below zero) on Thursday, I did not turn our entire living room into a fort for all the kids. They were not occupied all day long playing various things inside the fort that was anything from a hockey arena, castle, ice fishing house and many more adventures.
My hockey cheerleaders did not write me the sweetest note of thanks for being their advisor. Here is a picture of the girls. All of them are Ty's girlfriends. He calls them his princesses!! How cute is that!!
Ty did not sleep through the entire hockey game on Thursday night. He did not fall asleep before the player lineup was announced and not wake up until we left the arena. This being said, I did not sit on the FREEZING COLD bleachers the entire time holding him. Only my child could sleep through an entire hockey game with blaring music, screaming fans and whistles!!
Being so cold again on Friday I did not have 5 little chef's all under the age of 5 helping me bake cookies. They did not have a hysterical flour disaster with the mixer put on high. I then did not have 5 little white ghosts with the giggles!!
Ty and Eric did not flood the bathroom to the point of water coming into the hallway while taking a bath last night while I was making dinner. (At least the bathroom floor got a good cleaning!!)
Friday, January 16, 2009
Vicks Vapor Rub
I got this tip via email and tried it on Tyler. IT WORKS GREAT!!
Tyler has had a persistent cough at night that keeps him up and miserable. I tried this and he has not coughed at night for 3 nights in a row and is finally kicking his cold because he is getting some rest rather than coughing all night.
Try it - it really works!!
During a lecture on Essential Oils, they told us how the foot soles can absorb oils. Their example: Put garlic on your feet and within 20 minutes you can 'taste' it. Some of us have used Vicks Vapor rub for years for everything from chapped lips to sore toes and many body parts in between. But I've never heard of this. And don't laugh, it works 100% of the time, although the scientists who discovered it aren't sure why. To stop night time coughing in a child or adult , put Vicks Vapor rub generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime, then cover with socks. Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about 5 minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. Works 100% of the time and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly. Just happened to tune in A.M. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good, due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs so, I listened. It was a surprise finding and it was found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly.
If you end up sick, try it yourself and you will be absolutely amazed at how it works.
Tyler has had a persistent cough at night that keeps him up and miserable. I tried this and he has not coughed at night for 3 nights in a row and is finally kicking his cold because he is getting some rest rather than coughing all night.
Try it - it really works!!
During a lecture on Essential Oils, they told us how the foot soles can absorb oils. Their example: Put garlic on your feet and within 20 minutes you can 'taste' it. Some of us have used Vicks Vapor rub for years for everything from chapped lips to sore toes and many body parts in between. But I've never heard of this. And don't laugh, it works 100% of the time, although the scientists who discovered it aren't sure why. To stop night time coughing in a child or adult , put Vicks Vapor rub generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime, then cover with socks. Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about 5 minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. Works 100% of the time and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly. Just happened to tune in A.M. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good, due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs so, I listened. It was a surprise finding and it was found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly.
If you end up sick, try it yourself and you will be absolutely amazed at how it works.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
What do you do with 4 year olds on a day when it's 29 degrees below zero???
You paint the kitchen floor with your hands and feet!!Thank goodness for washable paint. The kids hands and feet looked just as bad!! We did get some good pictures out of the mess though and they had a blast. Now I'm off to try to scrub the paint out of the bathtub!!
The finished products handing out to dry...
Monday, January 12, 2009
Not Me Monday!!
I'm ready to vent!!
I did not allow Ty to try his hand at cooking this past week. I would never allow a 4 year old to cook whatever he wanted in the microwave so he could feel like an adult. And I did not try at least one bite of each item he cooked so he wouldn't feel bad - Including burnt oreo's, hot fruit coctail and and entire bag of marshmellows burned to a crisp on a plate.
I did not lie to my family Wednesday night when the meeting I was supposed to have got cancelled an hour before it was supposed to start. I did not still bring my boys to the hockey arena and tell Kurt that I was heading out to my meeting so that I could have 1 hour of "adult time". I did not drive out to visit my mom and totally enjoy grownup conversation for a couple of hours.
Nick did not name his hockey stick!! I have heard of people naming their vehicles, but a hockey stick?? The child is not totally obsessed with hockey and brings 3 sticks with him to a game just in case one breaks like the high school players.
Seeing that I had tons of laundry and packing to do before we left for our hockey weekend Friday night, Eric did not do the dishes for me while I was in the basement with the never ending laundry. And he most certainly did not tell me he did the dishes so that I would have a happy heart and not have to worry about doing them. How sweet is that!!!!
Well that's all for this week. Check out MckMama's Not me monday by clicking on the not me monday link at the beginning of this post.
I did not allow Ty to try his hand at cooking this past week. I would never allow a 4 year old to cook whatever he wanted in the microwave so he could feel like an adult. And I did not try at least one bite of each item he cooked so he wouldn't feel bad - Including burnt oreo's, hot fruit coctail and and entire bag of marshmellows burned to a crisp on a plate.
I did not lie to my family Wednesday night when the meeting I was supposed to have got cancelled an hour before it was supposed to start. I did not still bring my boys to the hockey arena and tell Kurt that I was heading out to my meeting so that I could have 1 hour of "adult time". I did not drive out to visit my mom and totally enjoy grownup conversation for a couple of hours.
Nick did not name his hockey stick!! I have heard of people naming their vehicles, but a hockey stick?? The child is not totally obsessed with hockey and brings 3 sticks with him to a game just in case one breaks like the high school players.
Seeing that I had tons of laundry and packing to do before we left for our hockey weekend Friday night, Eric did not do the dishes for me while I was in the basement with the never ending laundry. And he most certainly did not tell me he did the dishes so that I would have a happy heart and not have to worry about doing them. How sweet is that!!!!
Well that's all for this week. Check out MckMama's Not me monday by clicking on the not me monday link at the beginning of this post.
Friday, January 9, 2009
Jeff Foxworthy On Minnesota...
If you consider it a sport to gather your food by drilling through 18 inches of ice and sitting there all day hoping that the food will swim by,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you're proud that your state makes the national news 96 nights each year because International Falls is the coldest spot in the nation,
You might live in Minnesota.
If your local Dairy Queen is closed from November through March,
You might live in Minnesota.
If someone in a store offers you assistance, and they don't work there,
You might live in Minnesota.
If your dad's suntan stops at a line curving around the middle of his forehead,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you have worn shorts and a parka at the same time,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you know several people, who have hit deer more than once,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you often switch from "heat" to a/c" in the same day and back again,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you can drive 65mph through 2 feet of snow during a raging blizzard without flinching,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you see people wearing hunting clothes at social events,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you carry jumper cables in your car, and your wife knows how to use them,
You might live in Minnesota.
If there are 7 empty cars running in the parking lot of the grocery store at any given time,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you design your kid's Halloween costume to fit over a snowsuit,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you find -10 degrees "a little chilly",
You might live in Minnesota.
You might live in Minnesota.
If you're proud that your state makes the national news 96 nights each year because International Falls is the coldest spot in the nation,
You might live in Minnesota.
If your local Dairy Queen is closed from November through March,
You might live in Minnesota.
If someone in a store offers you assistance, and they don't work there,
You might live in Minnesota.
If your dad's suntan stops at a line curving around the middle of his forehead,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you have worn shorts and a parka at the same time,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you know several people, who have hit deer more than once,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you often switch from "heat" to a/c" in the same day and back again,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you can drive 65mph through 2 feet of snow during a raging blizzard without flinching,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you see people wearing hunting clothes at social events,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you carry jumper cables in your car, and your wife knows how to use them,
You might live in Minnesota.
If there are 7 empty cars running in the parking lot of the grocery store at any given time,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you design your kid's Halloween costume to fit over a snowsuit,
You might live in Minnesota.
If you find -10 degrees "a little chilly",
You might live in Minnesota.
THE MOM SONG
I got this Youtube link and thought it was too good not to share!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMhuAtyFCrw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMhuAtyFCrw
Monday, January 5, 2009
Nick's #3 Big Hockey Weekend
Nick had a hockey tournament in Hoyt Lakes this weekend. The team one 2 out of 3 games and even had a shut out. The first shut out for our goalie!! "A", the goalie, had some truly awesome saves this weekend. It was a great weekend with lots of cheering. The kids worked great together and had a bunch of nice passes and really worked as a team. Nick got a bunch of goals and has now justified his need to shoot pucks/balls/etc in our house. Look for more pictures next week. We have a double tournament with both the popsicles and the mites playing in Virginia.
Victory pile-up after the shut out
Picture of the game!! You can see the puck going in the net as the goalie looks back!! How cool is that?!?!
Fighting for the puck
Bodies in motion
Cheering for the other team
It's Not Me Monday time again and boy let me tell you, Christmas brings out a lot of Not Me's...
Since I did not post a not me monday last week, I thought that I would do a two week one today. Click on the link to check out MckMama's website and other Not Me Monday bloggers who are venting this week.
Having no packing tape in the house I did not resort to using black hockey stick tape. I guess that one falls in the topic of "You know you're obsessed with hockey when..."
I did not stay up until 2am wrapping "santa" presents for my kids because I didn't have any kid free time to do it before Christmas Eve.
I did not get totally frustrated with the toy manufactures after spending HOURS Christmas day removing tiny tiny rubberbands, twisty ties & screws from toy packages just to get the toy out of the packaging!! Why do they have to make it so difficult?!?!
My children did not check our computer about every 15 minutes to see where santa was at that time. (what a great way to get them to go to sleep fairly early!! Santa landed in North America on the website and they were up in bed by themselves!!)
My two dogs, although I'm not sure if it was both of them or only one, did not rip open their presents sometime during the night and eat the entire box of bones.
Tyler did not come running upstairs this morning all upset because the reindeer ate his strawberry ice cream. Some clarification on this is probably needed... We got a giant container of strawberry ice cream from a friend who owns an ice cream shop that is closed for the season. Well, this commercial size tub of ice cream would not fit in our freezer and being that we live in Northern Minnesota I thought it was perfectly fine using our front steps as the freezer. Well, sometime during the night Christmas Eve a stray dog or maybe the coyote that is living in the woods near our house rolled the container down the porch stairs and ripped it open and ate the entire thing!! Needless to say, Tyler was not happy that the reindeer ate all of his ice cream.
I did not find Ty's keke (blanket) that has been lost for over a week. Upon receiving his blanket back right before church Ty did not promply stick his thumb in his mouth and rub his special spot on the keke and fall dead asleep on my lap for the entire hour and a half long service. What a relief to find the blanket - I never realized how attached he was to it.
I did not forget and not have enough time to send out our Christmas cards yet. Sorry everyone. I guess this year we will be sending out New Years cards. It's not like I'm not busy or anything!?!?
I did not lay saran wrap over my curling iron on accident while trying to curl my hair and wrap plates of cookies at the same time. I surely did not notice that I did that and proceeded to curl my hair with melted plastic wrap on the iron. Melted plastic and burnt hair is not a pretty smell!!
I did not cheer like a crazed hockey mom this weekend during Nick's hockey tournament. I also thought that I was the quiet sports participant. I guess things change!!
I did not run outside one morning to start my car wearing no shoes and just socks. What kind of nut would do that in -25 degree temperatures??
I did not allow my boys to drag their mattresses down the stairs so that we could have a slumber party on New Years Eve. And I most certainly did not allow them to keep them in the living room the following night either.
Our entire household was not asleep by 11pm on New Year's Eve. While watching Disney Channels rockin new years eve I did not correct my boys when they thought it was midnight when it was really only 11pm our time and counted down the new year an hour early along with the tv show. They didn't know that the disney channel is on eastern time and I wanted to go to bed!!
I am not totally excited that Christmas vacation is done and school started again today!!
Well, there you go. That was alot of not me's when you add two weeks worth together!!
Glad Stellen is feeling better MckMama - that was quite a scare he gave you!!
Since I did not post a not me monday last week, I thought that I would do a two week one today. Click on the link to check out MckMama's website and other Not Me Monday bloggers who are venting this week.
Having no packing tape in the house I did not resort to using black hockey stick tape. I guess that one falls in the topic of "You know you're obsessed with hockey when..."
I did not stay up until 2am wrapping "santa" presents for my kids because I didn't have any kid free time to do it before Christmas Eve.
I did not get totally frustrated with the toy manufactures after spending HOURS Christmas day removing tiny tiny rubberbands, twisty ties & screws from toy packages just to get the toy out of the packaging!! Why do they have to make it so difficult?!?!
My children did not check our computer about every 15 minutes to see where santa was at that time. (what a great way to get them to go to sleep fairly early!! Santa landed in North America on the website and they were up in bed by themselves!!)
My two dogs, although I'm not sure if it was both of them or only one, did not rip open their presents sometime during the night and eat the entire box of bones.
Tyler did not come running upstairs this morning all upset because the reindeer ate his strawberry ice cream. Some clarification on this is probably needed... We got a giant container of strawberry ice cream from a friend who owns an ice cream shop that is closed for the season. Well, this commercial size tub of ice cream would not fit in our freezer and being that we live in Northern Minnesota I thought it was perfectly fine using our front steps as the freezer. Well, sometime during the night Christmas Eve a stray dog or maybe the coyote that is living in the woods near our house rolled the container down the porch stairs and ripped it open and ate the entire thing!! Needless to say, Tyler was not happy that the reindeer ate all of his ice cream.
I did not find Ty's keke (blanket) that has been lost for over a week. Upon receiving his blanket back right before church Ty did not promply stick his thumb in his mouth and rub his special spot on the keke and fall dead asleep on my lap for the entire hour and a half long service. What a relief to find the blanket - I never realized how attached he was to it.
I did not forget and not have enough time to send out our Christmas cards yet. Sorry everyone. I guess this year we will be sending out New Years cards. It's not like I'm not busy or anything!?!?
I did not lay saran wrap over my curling iron on accident while trying to curl my hair and wrap plates of cookies at the same time. I surely did not notice that I did that and proceeded to curl my hair with melted plastic wrap on the iron. Melted plastic and burnt hair is not a pretty smell!!
I did not cheer like a crazed hockey mom this weekend during Nick's hockey tournament. I also thought that I was the quiet sports participant. I guess things change!!
I did not run outside one morning to start my car wearing no shoes and just socks. What kind of nut would do that in -25 degree temperatures??
I did not allow my boys to drag their mattresses down the stairs so that we could have a slumber party on New Years Eve. And I most certainly did not allow them to keep them in the living room the following night either.
Our entire household was not asleep by 11pm on New Year's Eve. While watching Disney Channels rockin new years eve I did not correct my boys when they thought it was midnight when it was really only 11pm our time and counted down the new year an hour early along with the tv show. They didn't know that the disney channel is on eastern time and I wanted to go to bed!!
I am not totally excited that Christmas vacation is done and school started again today!!
Well, there you go. That was alot of not me's when you add two weeks worth together!!
Glad Stellen is feeling better MckMama - that was quite a scare he gave you!!
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